I read a book recently by William Gentry called “Be the Boss Everyone Wants to Work for: A guide for new leaders” and he makes the simple but profoundly true observation: “…strive to give five positive pieces of feedback over a period of time before you must deliver a negative one.” he bases this suggestion on research done by relationship experts John and Julie Gotterman in their work investigating successful marriages vs. those ending in divorce. according to the research- the ratio of positive to negative interactions for successful/married couples is typically around 5:1, whereas, unstable marriages show a ratio of 0.8:1.
In his book he also points to research showing how non-verbal communication (facial expression, tone, body gesture and proximity, eye contact, etc..) makes up anywhere between 65%-93% “..of the total emotional interaction between two people.”
I know I needed this reminder!
In today’s marketplace of ideas it is easy to get bogged down in the game of name-calling. The idea being that it is much easier to discount someone’s argument once their personal reputation has been soiled. Unfortunately, this seems to be “winning” strategy on all sides of the political spectrum and the election season IS its […]
This is prophetic and moving. Written by the Colorado State Board of Education in the wake of the Columbine massacre April 1999. Read what this group of public school officials and state employees write. Listen to their exhortations. This is more relevant today than it ever has been.
Read this: http://www.cde.state.co.us/sites/default/files/documents/cdeboard/download/resolution/res_columbine.pdf
“Finally, we must remember, respect, and unashamedly take pride in the fact that our schools, like our country, found their origin and draw their strength from the faith-based morality that is at the heart of our national character. Today our schools have become so fearful of affirming one religion or one value over another that they have banished them all. In doing so they have abdicated their historic role in the moral formation of youth and thereby alienated themselves from our people’s deep spiritual sensibilities. To leave this disconnection between society and its schools unaddressed is an open invitation to further divisiveness and decline. For the sake of our children, who are so dependent upon a consistent and unified message from the adult world, we must solve these dilemmas.”
I sent this message to some of my friends last November: In honor of my son (to be born in march- William “Calvin”), I thought I would share some facts about a man with the same name- (The following information was compiled from Wikipedia and heritage.org) Born on July 4th 1872 and was the 30th […]
Benjamin Franklin created a list of 13 virtues that can still be applied today. He believed that this list allowed him happiness in life. He used it as a tool to inventory his attitudes and behaviors every day of the week so that he could improve his character step-by-step. Franklin’s initial purpose was to attain […]
The following is a list showing the cause and effect relationships that create team success. The way a cause map works is as follows: 1) Effect1 <- Cause1 2) Cause1 (is Effect2) <- Cause2 3) Cause2 (is Effect3) <- Cause3 4) etc… The cause (Cause1) of team success (Effect1) is the effect of subsequent causes […]