I read a book recently by William Gentry called “Be the Boss Everyone Wants to Work for: A guide for new leaders” and he makes the simple but profoundly true observation: “…strive to give five positive pieces of feedback over a period of time before you must deliver a negative one.” he bases this suggestion on research done by relationship experts John and Julie Gotterman in their work investigating successful marriages vs. those ending in divorce. according to the research- the ratio of positive to negative interactions for successful/married couples is typically around 5:1, whereas, unstable marriages show a ratio of 0.8:1.
In his book he also points to research showing how non-verbal communication (facial expression, tone, body gesture and proximity, eye contact, etc..) makes up anywhere between 65%-93% “..of the total emotional interaction between two people.”
I know I needed this reminder!
Truth be told, the world was surprised by the election results and not just liberals. Work colleagues of mine were literally crying last Wednesday morning. Ivy league schools were canceling exams for students so that they could deal with the emotional terror of the outcome. There is violence and protests in the streets, albeit only […]
Hi All What happened in Orlando in the early hours of Sunday morning was tragic and terrible. It is the worst mass shooting in American history. The last two nights I have found myself awake staring at the ceiling in my bedroom overwhelmed with thoughts and looking for answers. The loss of life and implications of this […]
A quick reference for resources on several currently divisive topics. Slavery in the U.S. Was our system founded to only support white men? This is not true according to leading abolitionists and civil rights reformers. You can also read the words of the founders to see what they thought about it. Martin Luther King Jr and […]
Humans today generally live longer and are richer than than at any other point in our history. You would think this would make us happy right? Wrong. “In 2011, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported that the rate of antidepressant use in the United States rose by 400 percent between 1988 and 2008.” […]
Read this study article:
This tells me to speak to my children and encourage them as much as possible from a young age. The answer to more well-formed children and society is not necessarily more and newer school programs. It starts at home. I don’t agree with all the implications that some might draw from this article but the correlation between poor/bad (not necessarily income bracket) parenting and poor outcomes should speak for itself.
Watch video: https://www.prageru.com/courses/environmental-science/what-they-havent-told-you-about-climate-change#.VikEtfmT5ds.facebook Watch this five minute video. Patrick Moore, Co-Founder of Greenpeace, says, “All the information I’ve presented — the increases, decreases and plateaus in temperature over the ages and into the last centuries — is available to anyone who wants to seek it out. Yet to state these simple facts is to risk […]